Boy meets Girl ( Part one)

Recently Geraldine lent me a book titled "Boy meets Girl" by Joshua Harris.

Its a book about relationships and how to date with a purpose. Fooled by the simple title, i was amazed to find myself filled with questions, thoughts and self reflection as I flipped through page after page. This book has definately questioned the way I handle relationships .I'm only halfway through the book but here's an interesting story inside that i wanna share :


Imagine that you are a student in an art class. You and dozens of classmates are learning from a master painter. One day, the teacher dispays an incredible painting of his own and wants each of you to copy it.


As you begin working, you turn to look at the person next to you. You're surprised to note that he has a bigger canvas that yours and its shaped differently. You look around at the rest of the class. Some students have acrylic paint, others water colour and some even oil- and everyone has different colours. Though you all have the same assignment, you each have completely differnet materials.


This frustrates you. Some students have materials you would prefer for yourself. Why should they get them? You aren't the only one to notice this disparity.


A hand goes up. The girl on your left with only a ragged brush and three shades of blue on her palette is noticebly agitated. " This isn't fair." she tells the teacher. " How do you expect me to duplicate the painting when people around me have so many more colours to choose from?"


The teacher smiles. " Don't worry about the other students" he says " i have carefully chosen the brushes and paints that each of you has. Trust me. You have what you need to complete this assignment.

Remember, your goal is not to create a painting that mirrors the person next to you, but to do your best with the materials i have given you to create a picture faithful to my painting"


This is our lesson in romantic relationships. Just as art students had different colours and tools, we all have very diferent lives- we vary in age, background, looks, character, circumstance. Some of us have parents involved in our courtship, others don't. Some of us can develop a friendship with another person naturally in a group setting, others don't. Some of us journey towards a prospective marriage for the first time while others have journeyed through the pain of divorce and experience the hesistance of moving towards a second commitment.


Our circumstances don't always seem fair, do they? In moments like these, we need to trust the Master. We can rest in the knowledge that He is soverign over our life's situations. No matter where we are today or what mistakes we have made in the past, He has given us everything we need to glorify Him right now.

I think that short para is really powerful and it sends out a message to christians and non christians all the same. That every one experiences different circumstances when it comes to dating. Some may have it easier than others, they are Super Hot, have like huge boobs, guys falling at thier feet, and always at the right place at the right time. While others seem to have the world against them. But through it all, we must believe that we are given such circumstances for a reason; and that we too can paint an equally beautiful picture with the tools we have been given.



And for the past few days i have been thinking...



I find that He is slowly changing me and peeling away layer by layer of unrighteousness. And he has done so in the most amazing way. From breaking me down through Nat's incident to slowly building my faith and teaching me His word through Bsf. And now that i have moved over Nat's issue, I find Him challenging me to do more. To change certain aspects of my life and to stand up against norms that are not Godly but yet so socially accepted that they don't seem wrong.



Oh well, im going to get back to finsihing the book now.
Till the few hundred of pages left




Help me desire your will